Ditch The Doubt
November 04, 2016We all get those moments in life where we question:
- why we do something
- why something hasn’t happened yet
- why we aren’t a certain way
We create doubt in our minds about ourselves and who we are. The problem is that this is a very scary space to be in; not believing in yourself or having lost that belief.
How can we expect anyone else to believe in us when even we don’t ourselves?
Doubt comes around for many reasons, and to be honest the list is endless. It could be because we didn’t achieve what we wanted, or we are comparing ourselves to other people, or even due to low self esteem. When there is doubt though, there is no room to grow or push ourselves forward. We start to limit ourselves and what we can do because that self belief has gone. Believing in yourself is fuel for growth, it lights the fire in your belly to get you going to where you ultimately want to be. Others believing in you too is just adding wood to the fire – it keeps you going and pushes you on more. But without that initial spark from your self belief, you won’t be heading anywhere fast.
There’s a saying that really stood out to me this week:
“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.”
and it is scary how true this actually is.
Like I said before, doubt means a lack of belief in yourself.
No belief = no way of achieving your goal
You are limiting what you are capable of because of the way you see yourself. Doubt stops you in your tracks, gets you stuck, and even sometimes sets you back a few paces. We have all been there – the place where we know what we want but feeling doubtful made us scared to pursue it. Doubt not only almost puts you in a box, unable to get out, but it also makes us question ourselves too much. Questions are good, from them we get answers that teach us and help us grow. But when these questions are negative and self destructing all they do is pull us down. For example: ‘Why am I still failing’, ‘Why do I never achieve’, ‘Is this really all my life is’. These are all questions of self doubt and a lack of self belief, and with these rushing around our head spaces then where is the room to grow? Where is the positivity?
Failure on the other hand is totally different. I’ve written about this before and truly believe that failure is what pushes us forward in life. It has such a negative meaning, but in reality it gives us such valuable life lessons, and as adults, sometimes it’s the only way we learn. It’s thought that failure is what stops us from progressing but in reality its what keeps us going, it’s what adds fuel to our fire.
It’s as simple as that - we learn from failure. Take the positive out of failure, about what you have learned and what you have gained and use that to your advantage to push you forward. Use it to get yourself to where you want to be. Doubt is just poison for the brain. It tarnishes all that you believe in and if you have a dream or a goal that you are heading towards, it will honestly drag you down.
Now, we can’t stop ourselves feeling doubt. Emotions and feelings will come to us throughout life for one reason or another and we can’t make a conscious effort to stop them. But what we can do is make that conscious decision to not let them take over and rule us. If you have a moment of doubt, then let it be just that! A moment. You have the control and the power to let that moment pass. Make that choice to let the doubt leave, don’t let it stick around. Don’t let it poison what you believe in, or stop what drives you, or make you question and second guess yourself. Doubt drags you down, but failure pushes you forward. In other words:
Do you have a dream you’re heading towards?
Do you have a goal you’re aiming for?
Yes?
Then, ditch the doubt.
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