Her Unique Glow

Be a detective

Whenever you’re on the search to find something, you need to become a detective. Really digging deep and discovering what drives you and motivates you through life is going to really help guide you on your journey to finding your passion. That detective work starts with figuring out what hasn’t worked for you so far and what has. During this role as your own personal investigator ask yourself these questions:

• What hasn’t worked for me so far?
• What don’t I enjoy doing?
• What makes me upset, angers me or demotivates me?
• What don’t I like?
• What have I done that doesn’t serve me?
• What do I currently do that doesn’t serve me?

Write all of these answers in one column.

Then ask yourself the next set of questions:

• What has worked for me so far?
• What do I enjoy doing?
• What makes me happy, excited and inspired?
• What do I like?
• What have I done that serves me in being my most authentic self?
• What do I currently do that serves me?

Write all these answers down in a second column.

It’s important to know what you like and what you don’t like in order to move forward in finding your passion.

Get rid of limiting beliefs

Limiting beliefs hold you back in life from achieving what you dream of – sometimes they have so much power over us that they actually stop us from reaching our goals. Limiting beliefs also play a big part in stopping us from discovering what we are passionate about.

Why?

We start to believe that we should be one way or another, that we SHOULD like one thing and not another. We create a story of who we believe we are rather than allow ourselves to truly explore who we are.

When you are finding your passion, it’s so important to be open and willing to explore and learn and that can only happen once you throw every limiting belief about yourself out the window.

This also means getting rid of any expectations you have on yourself or how your life should be as well as expectations others have set on you.

Be curious

Now is the time to start questioning what you’re interested in. Get curious. Write down another list and this time jot down anything that interests you. It doesn’t have to be a huge interest and it doesn’t necessarily have to be achievable right this second – but write down anything that you want to explore in more detail.

If you always wanted to try ballet, write it down.

If you want to learn to cook, write that down.

If you’re interested in architecture, write that down.

It doesn’t matter how big or small these interests are, like I said it might only be a small curiosity – but at the moment you don’t know where any of these interests could lead you, it’s just a useful exercise moving forward.

Take action

Now is the time to experiment and explore.

You have to feel your way to clarity through action – without taking action you’ll never achieve anything.

Pick one or two things off your curiosity list and start experimenting. Explore anything that piques your interest and just dive in. Give it a go.

Remember though – at the moment you don’t have to commit to anything! These aren’t commitments that you have to all of a sudden be dedicated to. They are only little experiments to see what works for you and what you want to investigate more of and what doesn’t work for you.

Don’t commit to something until you have tried it out consistently for at least a month – by that time you should have a rough understanding of whether this is the path to go down or not.

Not everything you love is your passion

I think so many of us get confused now a days over love and passion and for some reason we seem to think that the two are interlinked. Well I’m here to tell you that not everything you love will be your passion and vice versa – the two are totally separate and believing that they are somehow connected all the time is another limiting belief you can do without.

One last side note on this point: It’s also important to go into this journey understanding that your passion doesn’t have to end up being your career! I see so many people expecting to start a career off their passion, or to join a career based on their passion and that’s not always achievable and it won’t always serve you. Yes, sometimes the two do work well together but that’s not to say finding your passion will all of a sudden land you your dream job.

Your passion is not one thing. Your passion is YOU. What makes you fulfilled and gives your life meaning is passion – it’s everything that makes YOU. That’s why it’s so important to be a detective and investigate your life. Finding your passion isn’t about discovering a new you or finding that next career path – it’s about exploring who you are, what drives you and ultimately what would give you the most fulfilling life imaginable.

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