Her Unique Glow

Sometimes in life,

all the wonderful things we used to appreciate, become lost or forgotten and honestly, just start getting taken for granted. It’s true, it happens to all of us… we are only human. The danger is when we then forget to START appreciating them again. Without the latter we stand to lose them. This week I’ve had a few conversations with those around me and this topic seemed to come up pretty much most of the time, for different reasons, and that’s why I wanted to write about it for this week’s blog post.

In life, especially now-a-days, it’s just human nature to always want more. We are bombarded by images on TV and social media of what we believe life to be, or we see what our friends/acquaintances have and wish we had the same. It’s that famous saying:

“the grass is always greener on the other side.”

However, over time, these extraordinary experiences soon become the norm, they become the everyday reality and therefore the appreciation starts to dwindle and taking it all for granted sets in.

Like I said before this is OK, it’s not the end of the world if this happens, but ONLY if you realise it and begin appreciating the rare things in your life again - those things you thought you would never have. We need to start appreciating things in our lives MORE rather than taking things for granted because then all we think about is what ‘more’ we want, rather than loving what we already have. We need to learn to be content with what we have rather than to always ‘want more’ because in reality

that ‘MORE’ that we dream of – well - we already have it! We have just forgotten that we do.

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I have two examples here (obviously there are hundreds, but just writing about two to give you a bit of context):

1. Imagine that you’re unlucky in love, your boyfriend/spouse/partner neglects you, cheats on you, hurts you (physically or emotionally). All you dream about every day is finding prince charming who will show love and affection, shower you with gifts and treat you like a princess. Eventually you do find that prince and oh my, well it’s just FANTASTIC! He buys you flowers, takes you out for dinner, holds you close all the time and tells you how beautiful you are. It’s just magical and you can’t believe its happening. Everyday you wake up so down right grateful you’re living your life and you treat your partner with the most precious of attitudes in return. Let’s look maybe a year, two years, five years down the line. Now all that new wonder at the beginning is the norm, you don’t get excited by the gifts anymore, you get annoyed at the clutter that’s accumulating. You don’t have that butterfly feeling in your stomach every time he holds you, you just get annoyed that you can’t move and you’re trying to cook dinner! The thing is there are women still looking into your relationship from the outside and absolutely crying on the inside because that’s ALL they want. Your relationship hasn’t changed, but the way you behave in it and the way you view it has.
2. This second one is about a job. You are struggling to find a job you love, or stick at a job. You send of hundreds of applications and get knock backs. All you’re doing is looking at everyone else wishing you were in their shoes. Then one day, all of a sudden you get the most amazing job that you thought you would only ever dream about. Yes, the hours are long, yes it’s draining but honestly, you just don’t care at all. You are THAT happy. Again looking a few months, or a year down the line when the novelty has worn off. You’re tired all the time with no social life and completely depleted of energy and motivation. But there are hundreds of people looking into your life from the outside wishing they could be in your shoes. I mean remember how you used to feel before you got the job? How low you were? How that was the only thing you ever wanted? And more importantly how thrilled you were when you first started?

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That’s what needs to change in order to be happy again. There is no point looking ‘outside the box’ when what you have is already there but just buried deep down. Of course this can be applied to so many relationships but this is just one example. Put it this way, there is a reason you married or starting a relationship with that particular partner of yours, so what was it that you used to appreciate about each other? What is it that you have forgotten?

It’s just your perspective has changed on the situation and in order to find that spark again you have to change your perspective again.

Always remember that if you are wanting something else and looking at others, then it makes logical sense that someone is looking into your life and wishing that it’s they life they had. There are wonderful, fabulous parts to your life that others DO only dream of. It’s just they have become the normality for you and that’s the part of your thinking that has to change.

The change in your life that you’re looking for doesn’t come from anything

external,

it comes from everything

internal.

You have to change the way you think and the way you believe in order for those changes to become permanent and true. I’m not saying that this will work for every situation in your life but it is food for thought, and maybe just think about where you CAN apply it in your life.

Realising what you already have really does release a new lease of life in you. It makes you excited again to be living YOUR life. You even may once again realise you are the luckiest person ever! Just by appreciating what you have you may start to see areas in your life improve: relationships, jobs, family atmosphere and so much more. Yes, that saying does exist: ‘the grass is always greener on the other side’, but I want to add something onto the end of that:

“The grass is always greener on the other side, but we must always remember to tend to our own lawn, treasure it and look after it first.”

If we want those wonderful things in our lives to stay bright and fantastic then we HAVE to nurture them, we have to look after them and yes…we have to start appreciating them again.

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