Her Unique Glow

I have spent the last year and a half working on my book HEALTH-FULL: A Holistic Guide To Your Happiest & Healthiest Self. So, when it finally was published, I thought it would be the biggest weight lifted – like my purpose had finally been realised and I could breathe again. Only, that didn’t happen. Although I was insanely proud of myself, I also had the biggest case of vulnerability blues and my inner mean girl took that as her opportunity to knock on my door, let herself in and set up camp in my living room. Erm… no thank you inner critic. But yet, here she was and she wasn’t budging.

In all honesty, comparisonitis was bubbling under the surface for months – and I felt that if I continued to work my little booty off, that I’d somehow feel worthy and successful enough; that by constantly ‘doing’ something, my inner critic would finally be happy and would buzz off leaving me in a peaceful stupor. Only that didn’t happen. In the end, what turned out to be a little bout of comparisonitis turned into a full on flare up that left me in a Zombie-like state where the only thing that would remotely make me feel better was to work, work, work.

So yes, my book finally launched, it was out there for the world to see. But my metaphorical band-aid to numb the crippling self-doubt had finally been removed. Ouch.

Everything came to the surface.

Everything that I’d not felt good enough about came to the forefront and I was forced to face all that nasty bullsh*t that my inner mean girl had been telling me for months.

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When your inner critic shows up, you have 2 choices:

1. Let her make herself (or himself) at home, make them a cup of tea and ask them whether they’d prefer a delicious vegan carrot cake or organic chocolate brownie before getting to work at pulling you down.
2. Or ask them to leave and close the door in their face with a ‘you’re not welcome here’ sassy strut that leaves them speechless.

I’d spent too long letting my inner mean girl root herself into every inch of my life, so when all of a sudden I was faced with the reality of everything she had been convincing me of, I had no choice. I had to up-root her and kick her out on her ugly tush!

The problem is, the more we allow our inner mean girl (or boy) make themselves at home, the more we are susceptible to placing unrealistic expectations on ourselves. The thing about expectations is that they will never truly serve us. In fact, expectations are famously known for ruining relationships – and that includes the relationship we have with ourselves.

What starts off as a little healthy pressure to propel us forwards in life, can soon turn into a whole pile of stinky expectations, feeding our inner mean girl until she’s so full of pride that she bursts into sing-song telling us all the junk in a self-doubt enhancing musical number we just can’t get out of our heads.

Ear plugs please?

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Truth time!

We are unique.

100% beautifully unique.

We are so unique in fact, that our ‘uniqueness’ is our super power through life.

When we’re crippled in self-doubt, it’s because our inner mean girl has blocked that innate knowledge from the forefront of our minds and convinced us that we aren’t worthy, successful or good enough (the list is endless).

But you are.

Gorgeous, you are SO worthy, and do you know why?

Because YOU, yes YOU, were put on this earth and given this temple to do incredible things.

You have so much value in this world and your voice is worth sharing. Hell, it’s not just worth sharing – it’s worth singing, shouting and sharing all the love you possibly can!

I had got into such a rut that I believed what my inner mean girl was telling me. I believed that no one wanted to hear what I had to say. That I wasn’t good enough, liked enough, popular enough, pretty enough – I believed all the nonsense and totally forgot I had this incredible super power.

But something amazing happens when you make the decision to kick her/him out of your life:

All of a sudden that innate knowledge comes back!

It might not happen right away.
It might take a breath or two.
It might take a week, month or even years.

But once you decide she’s not welcome in your life anymore, you can do the deep work and that inner knowing that YOU have VALUE will start to come back to you and power you forwards. When she/he no longer takes up space in your life, you’ll have more space to do the healing you need to, so that you can start believing in yourself again; so that you can take up more space and live your life with purpose, intent and love.

Release the expectations.
Kick your inner mean girl out.
Live life knowing that you are worthy, that you are enough, that you are valuable.

Because, lovely, you have so much to give! And it’s time you started sharing it without anyone, or anything, holding you back.

I believe in you, and it’s time you started believing in yourself.

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